Blushing Belle: Wedding Themes

Weddings are extravagant displays that can be incredibly overwhelming and expensive--but most of the time, a lot of the details that people spend an irrational amount of time and money on are often forgotten. Selecting a theme for your wedding that tailors to you and your future spouse's life, personalities, interests, etc will make your wedding feel that much more personal, special, and memorable for everyone. It's also a way to flex your expertise, and revel in what you love with who you love! Consider some of these fun wedding themes that go beyond simple Pinterest boards and current trends

1. Movie Wedding

My fiancé and I are both aspiring screenwriters. We love movies and television so much that we spent a large chunk of change earning degrees in them. We spend almost every day with a script in our hands, or something on the TV. So we thought, why not make our wedding a movie? The Save the Dates are a script, the invitations are a movie poster, and the RSVP is a movie ticket. At the ceremony we will have a red carpet for the "premiere" as well as a step and repeat back drop for people to take pictures in front of to feel like they are a part of a real red carpet event. The wedding gifts are popcorn buckets with a "best wedding guest" Oscar inside, along with popcorn and movie candy. Each table is labeled by SCENE # and the place holders are casted with the guest name, and the accompanying actor that would play them in the movie that is our wedding. It was fun for the both of us to put details of our passion in our wedding because it's something that we will enjoy beyond the fact that it's our special day. Now we have made it ours by making it personal.

2. Holiday Wedding

Halloween, Christmas, New Years Eve, Valentine's Day,  or 4th of July have the obvious, and fun themes with endless potential. People are passionate about the most wonderful times of the year (I would have Christmas every day if it were socially acceptable). 

3. Masquerade Ball Wedding

If you have a flare for the extravagant, then this is a theme for you. Yes, it's pretty common amongst large parties and fundraisers, but you have the opportunity to make the night unforgettable. Designing masks for you, your spouse, the bridal and grooms parties, etc, it's all part of this vintage grand design that has a regal air to it. 

4. Pajama Party Wedding

Not that wedding dresses aren't beautiful, but sometimes people just would rather be in their PJs! If you find yourself among those that appreciate good snacks, gossip, slippers, and comfy attire, then a PJ party wedding theme is for you.

5. Literary Wedding

Words are important. If you and your spouse found love through books and the written word, then share that with your guests! Revel in the greatest romances, loving characters, in order to start this new chapter in your lives off write

6. Fairytale Wedding

Oh boy does this idea have plenty of variety to it. Whether you want to go classic fairytale with a big dress, fairy lights, and the glamorous ball theme or you want to go Disney Princess with it, the fairytale wedding is a classic, but forever personal theme.

7. Murder Mystery Wedding

Okay, I know how GAME OF THRONES-y that sounds, but hear me out. Everyone knows how weddings and receptions go down, why not throw a little game and mystery into it? At the reception, something goes terribly wrong and someone is murdered! The reception is a game of whodunnit and suspicion that will make the evening fun and memorable.

8. Throwback Wedding

Whether you're throwing it back to the 20's, 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's or 90's a throwback themed wedding is a fun nostalgic way to celebrate the future. Not only can you incorporate fashion and pop culture from the selected time period, but also including personal items, photos and motifs from the time period that you and your family have.

9. Around the World Wedding

Send out invitations that look like passports. When your guests arrive they will find that the tables are themed from places and cities all around the world. The food, music and decor is diverse and culturally deep from the places you have been or want to go. This is a perfect theme for a couple with a deep wanderlust.

10. Literally DIY Wedding

Okay, yes, you may include burlap and mason jars and paper flowers in this one, but the appeal in DIY is that you get to revel in your own success right? Why not allow your guests to feel the same way. Offer DIY opportunities at the tables, or at the reception. Like a build your own wedding favor, decoration, or little wedding gift for the couple. It's a fun activity to share with everyone, and it's a way to make your wedding personalized on a massive scale.


Blushing Belle: Honeymoon Help

Now that you're hitched, it's time to escape and go off on your first adventure as a married couple together! Whether you want to go somewhere rustic, get down and dirty, head to a tradition spot or enjoy a stay-cation, this list will hopefully inspire you for where you'd like to spend your honeymoon, how you'd like to spend it, and your options for the actual spending part of spending time.

Planning the Adventure


Things To Consider & Remember

Where are you gonna go? What's your budget? What do you want to do? How long do you want the honeymoon to be? When do you want to go on the honeymoon? There are a ton of things to consider when it comes to your honeymoon. Make sure you consider...

-Do you both actually want a honeymoon? (Do you need a vacation together now? Do you want to vacation so quickly? This is a tradition that you are in no way required to partake in.)

-Date of honeymoon (Do you want to go the day after your wedding? Do you want a seasonal honeymoon? Do you want to wait for a different special occasion? Is a honeymoon in the budget for now or in six months?)

-Length of honeymoon (Is this going to be a month long excursion or a fun weekend getaway? Can you afford to take a long period of time off?) 

-Honeymoon Budget (How much do you want/can you spend on a honeymoon? What will you spend on hotel/activities/travel/etc?)

-The details (Where do you both want to go? Where will you stay? How will you get there? What will you do there?)

-The prep work (Planning the honeymoon, booking travel, taking time off of work, house sitter, etc.)

-Don't procrastinate (Booking items in advance will allow for plenty of planning, as well as affordability)

-Plan the honeymoon together (You may have been planning your fairy tale getaway honeymoon to Paris for years, but if your spouse hates the idea of flying, you might have a problem. Plan the adventure together, this is the first big thing you do as a married couple more often than not.)

-Be specific with what you want. (This is a special adventure that is probably going to cost a considerable amount of money. Make sure you make the best of it, and if you want to do something--do it!)

-Do your research. (What's a bit more time on the internet or Pinterest gonna hurt?)

Helpful Apps and Websites for Planning

There's an App for That! 9 Apps and Websites to Help You Plan the Perfect Honeymoon

The Knot

How (And When) to Plan Your Honeymoon


Honeymoon Planning Checklist

10 Amazing Apps to Make Your Honeymoon Travels a Breeze

Location, Location, Location

Traditional Honeymoon Destinations


The Caribbean, Cancun, Cayman Islands, Aruba, Rio
You can't really go wrong on a tropical island. There's always spending long hours on the beach, staring at crystal blue ocean, enjoying fruity cocktails and booming night life.

Explore Europe's cities of romance and culture!

Southern Inspired Honeymoon Destinations

Savannah, Georgia

New Orleans, Louisiana

Wrightsville Beach, NC

Red River Gorge, KY

Charleston, SC

Fredericksburg, TX

Virginia Beach, VA

Wilmington, NC

Fairhope, AL

Gatlinburg, TN

Asheville, NC

Nashville, TN

Louisville, KY

"Outside of the Box" Honeymoon Destinations/Ideas

The Comfort of Your Own New Home
Spend your honeymoon decorating, consummating and enjoying your new living space together! Make the house a home. 

A Treehouse



Cross Country Road Trip

Helpful Links for Your Honeymoon Location:

50 Best Places to Honeymoon in 2015
5 Unconventional Honeymoon Ideas
24 Honeymoon Destinations You've Never Thought Of
15 Best Honeymoon Destinations in the USA
25 Best Small Town Honeymoon Destinations in the US
Find Your Perfect Honeymoon Destination from Southern Living
55 Honeymoon Destinations You'll Remember for a Lifetime
The Honey List
5 Southern US Honeymoon Destinations


Let's talk $$$. When it comes to your honeymoon there are plenty of things you can spend money on:
-Airfare/Train tickets/Rental car
-Activities and tourist stuff
And so on.


Planning is important to staying on budget. Figure out what you can spend on each item, and then find the options that fit within your budget.

Utilize help.

Research online and in real life. Seek professional help as well. Use apps such as honeyfund to get assistance for your honeymoon budget.

Register for your honeymoon.

Honeyfund isn't the only honeymoon registry out there, but it's probably the best because you aren't confined to a specific destination or timeframe. However, most honeymoon locations allows for a registry, like Disney World.


Make a spreadsheet.

After all of your wedding planning, you probably don't want to see an Excel document for another 5 years, but seriously this will help. Check out The Plunge's Honeymoon Budget Spreadsheet for reference.

25 Ways to Honeymoon for Less
19 Ways Ideas to Save Money When Planning Your Honeymoon on a Budget
Tips for Taking Your Dream Honeymoon on a Budget 

Extra Advice

-Take lots of photos

-Don't forget that it's a vacation.

-Enjoy yourselves.

-Keep on budget.

-Don't feel obligated to do things because people suggest them, or they are the tourist things to do.

-Make memories.

-Have fun.


Blushing Belle: Wedding Planning Tips & Advice for Brides That Need To Take a Deep Breath

Some advice passed down from generation to generation, heart to heart, and internet post to canvas painting on sale at Marshall's...

On buying the dress:
"When getting a designer gown, start selections and alteration about five to eight months in advance so that the price tag matches it worth! Also, it may take some time to make and get to the store on time."

"Retail gowns will arrive at a shop faster and aren't normally as particular/fussy with alterations. More often than not, you can try these dresses on and feel their fit accordingly. This process should go down maybe two or three months previous to the big day."

"A hand me down gown you'll know if you're wearing well before. However, if you're wearing Mom's, Grandmom's, Sister's, next door neighbor's, make sure that it fits you--not only physically, but emotionally and the desired effect you wanted to pull off on your big day."

"When it comes to the fit of a gown, every bride is different. A gown should make you feel like a beautiful princess, but a comfortable, beautiful princess. Make sure your dress fits your body for you."

"Price: always keep a budget and options in mind. Sometimes one dress may seem too good to be true, but at least you know what your taste is. Keep a variety available."


"The bridal party dresses, accessories as well as characters are 100% YOUR choice (the bride.) Their colors, styles what have you, are YOUR choice--not Mom, Dad, Aunt Helen, etc."

"Keep our bridal party as large or as small as you feel comfortable with."

"The Maid of Honor is an important position and you only get one pick. Don't consider it a life or death decision because you'll drive yourself bonkers over it and make it about these ladies when this day should be about you. Suggestion: have more than one sister that you can't choose among? Pick a best pal and put the sisters in the bridal party! Or title them ALL maids of honor. Who's gonna call you on it?"


On wedding planning:
"Pinterest in your friend."

"Get someone qualified to review contracts that you are signing. It's always good to know that you did everything you could to get everything done."

"Plan all of your versions of your wedding and then combine your favorite elements."

"Have some perspective help, but don't lose your own vision."

"Do a little each day."

"Set up a special email address just for wedding planning."

"Research it all."

"Keep a few TO DO lists."

"Get excited."


Be careful of hiccups!

Makeup Mistakes

Top 50 Mistakes Brides Always Make

The Wedding:

"Ask people to put their phones away during the ceremony. Everyone is gonna want pictures, but that's why you hired a photographer."

"Make sure you have time to spend with your new hubby during the special day. So many people want your attention, but don't forget to take some time together."

"Delegate tasks to your bridal party and anyone else willing to help!"

"Wake up super early, and stay up really late."

"Organize the day the best you can. Like, punch up a list of all of the people you MUST get a pic with, that way you know you're getting the photos you want. You have to be chill though, even if things don't go 100% as planned."


5 Cringeworthy Wedding Moments and How to Avoid Them


"Never go to bed mad, or your marriage will be very sad. Your sex will be better, your heart unfettered, and you'll both be happy and glad."

"Alway assume he's trying to help, not insinuating or accusing. Save the aggravation for a real fight."

"There is more than one way to do it." -Tim Toady

"Compromise, if not the spice of life, is its solidity. It is what makes nations great and marriages happy."

"What counts in making a happy marriage is not how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility." -Leo Tolstoy

"If you fight, fight naked."

"Kiss before bed and goodbye."

"Don't fight when you're angry."

"The wedding is not a be all end all--this is an event about love and celebration. Let it happen. Enjoy yourself, this is the first day of the rest of your life."

You're Welcome


Blushing Belle: 101 Things Brides Are Tired Of Hearing

Being a bride can be the best, most rewarding, exciting, and stressful experience of your life. There are a ton of aspects to planning a wedding, but what are some things brides-to-be are just sick of hearing? Well..


  1. “Are you pregnant?”
  2. “Is your ring real?”
  3. “Are you going to go on a diet before the big day?”
  4. “Aren’t you a little young to be getting married?”
  5. “How much is your wedding budget?”
  6. “How many bridesmaids are you going to have?”
  7. “Can you afford a wedding?”
  8. “Are you sure you’re ready?”
  9. “Is he really the one?”
  10. “Where are you honeymooning?”
  11. “Can you afford that honeymoon destination?”
  12. “What kind of flowers are you going to have?”
  13. “You need to relax.”
  14. “You’re being lazy.”
  15. “Don’t be a bridezilla.”
  16. “Well, at my wedding…”
  17. “Calm down.”
  18. “Don’t worry about it.”
  19. “Why didn’t you hire a wedding planner?”
  20. “Why did you waste your money on a wedding planner?”
  21. “The only thing that people care about at your wedding is the food.”
  22. “You should do something about your skin before the wedding.”
  23. “You’re aware of the divorce rate, right?”
  24. “What are you going to do if he cheats on you?”
  25. “I don’t think that’s a good “first dance” song.”
  26. “One word: karaoke.”
  27. “Don’t you think getting married is a bit archaic?”
  28. “What happens when you’re old?”
  29. “Don’t let marriage change your sex life!”
  30. “Are you still going to go out, and like have fun with your friends?”
  31. “When are you going to have kids?”
  32. “How many kids are you going to have?”
  33. “Have you picked out any names for your kids?”
  34. “I don’t think you’re ready to have children.”
  35. “Are you financially responsible?”
  36. “Prenup.”
  37. “You really think this is the person you want to wake up to for the rest of your life?”
  38. “You’ve changed since you got engaged.”
  39. “Are you ready to give up dating?”
  40. “Are you going to take his last name?”
  41. “Are you going to be a housewife?” 
  42. “Are you getting married for money?”
  43. “Do you hate having to share your stuff?”
  44. “Aren’t in-laws the worst?”
  45. “You lose your freedom when you get married.”
  46. “This is a bad idea.”
  47. “I always thought you were going to end up with ___________.”
  48. “Marriage isn’t a fairy tale, ya know?”
  49. “Do you like playing house?”
  50. “You should wait a few years.”
  51. “You haven’t been together long enough to be getting married.”
  52. “Are you going to get a bigger ring later?”
  53. “Who’s paying for the wedding?”
  54. “You should do a theme wedding!” 
  55. “Have you set a date yet?”
  56. “I know the invitation didn’t include a plus one, so I just wrote in my plus one. 
  57. “I’m going to bring my kids to the wedding even though you said not to, but I just don’t want to get a sitter.”
  58. “Don’t let kids at your wedding. They’ll ruin it.”
  59. “Are you going to be a DIY bride?”
  60. “I’ve made you a bunch of Pinterest boards.”
  61. “Do I have to bring a gift?”
  62. “How expensive is your registry?”
  63. “You’re registered where?”
  64. “I know you’re registered at Nordstrom, but I’m going to get you something from Bed, Bath & Beyond.”
  65. “I can’t RSVP right now, can I get back to you a week before?”
  66. “I feel obligated to ask, but do you need help with anything?”
  67. “Why wasn’t I your maid of honor/bridesmaid?”
  68. “I guess this is the last time I’ll see you.”
  69. “Is your mother-in law a bitch?”
  70. “Just elope.”
  71. “Weddings are stupid.”
  72. “Are you sure you want to wear white?”
  73. “Don’t invite _______.”
  74. “No one is even going to notice ____________.”
  75. “I hope you don’t have ____________ at your wedding.”
  76. “Will the DJ play this playlist?”
  77. “Don’t have Top 40 songs played at your wedding.”
  78. “I need a gluten free, meat free, sugar free food option because I’m on a cleanse.”
  79. “You should have a traditional wedding.”
  80. “Throw tradition out the window.”
  81. “A wedding is just a party.”
  82. “You need to have a stripper at your bachelorette party.”
  83. “That date doesn’t work for me. Can you change it?”
  84. “I don’t think that dress style works for you.”
  85. “You don’t have to have such a big wedding.”
  86. “You didn’t invite enough people to your wedding.”
  87. “Why did you pick this style of invitation?”
  88. “Can I pick my seat? I don’t want to sit with _____, or _____, and definitely not _________.”
  89. “I know you sent me the invitation, but where and when is your wedding?”
  90. “You’re going to be engaged for two years? That’s ridiculous.”
  91. “You just got engaged and you’re getting married in six months? That’s ridiculous.”
  92. “What are you going to do if it rains?”
  93. “Don’t cry, no offense, but you ugly cry.”
  94. “Are you going to get your make up done? You should get a professional to do it.”
  95. “Getting married doesn’t matter, it’s just an old fashion ceremony.”
  96. “I’m going to be so broke after your wedding.”
  97. “I want to make a toast at your wedding even though I’m not in the wedding party.”
  98. “My friend is a photographer. You should hire her to do your photos.”
  99. “You need to have a wedding hashtag.”
  100. “Why are you having your wedding in _______?”

Blushing Belle: Being Engaged Young and Far Away

Hi, I'm Lexx.

That's me!

This is my FIANCE, Connor.

Wow, it's still super weird calling him that. But ain't he cute?

Connor and I were both screenwriting students at Drexel University. In April 2015, we both volunteered to participate in Accepted Students Day(s)—I was in a glorified "line leader" role, while Connor answered questions on the Co Op panel. After the first day of volunteering, all of the volunteers retired to 027 for free lunch. I overheard Connor speaking to Professor Kaufhold about his senior project, Kaiju. Kaufhold mentioned Ultraman in the conversation, and I--a professional eavesdropper--picked up the familiar tidbit and inserted myself into the conversation. Connor and I chatted for a while before he had to leave for a Quidditch match. I gave him my card and never heard from him again...for a whole ten days. I had seen him the next week at the second Accepted Students Day. He had added my on Facebook, but nothing. However, after those ten days, Connor noticed some interesting mutual friends and through the power of the internet, the two began talking day and night. I would go to Connor's apartment at 40th and Baring, and hang out there all night until almost five in the morning. We would talk, write, and just enjoy each other’s company. I went to Los Angeles in June 2015, and we stayed in sporadic contact. I got pneumonia in late June, early July--as one does in the middle of Summer in California--and the only company I found was Connor. In the early fall of 2015, the two were FaceTiming and chatting every night. Connor supported me through a lot of difficult moments that I was going through. I loved Connor's company. We engaged in a writing challenge together in October 2015 as I searched for an apartment for us to share. I finally found one for us to move into on October 25th, 2015. Connor bought his ticket for the 24th--the same evening as the Blumhouse Halloween party that I would be attending as an intern. On Wednesday, October 20th, I managed to grow a pair and ask Connor to be my boyfriend. He joyfully accepted the proposal. I picked Connor up at the airport, still covered in latex and blood from the party, late Saturday evening and we made the little apartment a wonderful home. We celebrated our first Thanksgiving on our own, and even put up our very first Christmas tree together. The apartment memories were full of snuggles, Let's Plays, writing Pow-Wows, and home cooked dinners. It was a splendid paradise. Connor and I stayed just as connected and in love once I returned to Philadelphia to complete my education. I returned in late June for a visit, and then back again in October 2016. We recreated our first date for our anniversary on Thursday, October 20th, 2016: Nanbankan and a trip to The Sovereign--formerly Judy Garland's yacht, and now Larry Nelson's yacht, and possibly the most beautiful yacht ever--for a few rounds of Boggle and some slow dancing. After I mercilessly spanked Connor at the longest four rounds of Boggle in the man's life, we retired to the lounge to slow dance to our song, Haley Reinhart's "Can't Help Falling in Love With You"--brought to us via an incredibly well written and conceived gum commercial Connor shared with me in early October 2015. After the song concluded, Connor got down on one knee, presented me with the most beautiful ring I had ever seen, and asked me to marry him. I, for the first time in my entire life, couldn't find any words. I was so overcome by joy. I finally managed to say a yes before smothering Connor with kisses. The next day, we went to Disneyland to Mickey's Halloween Party. We are dorks, but we are dorks that were written for one another.

So now that you know basically all about us aside from our social security numbers, here's the nitty gritty part that actually may be helpful to you.

We are engaged at 21 and 23 years of age, we currently live on opposite coasts from one another, and our wedding date is set for October 20th, 2018. 

There's plenty to process in that previous statement. First off, most people don't even commit to a Tinder bio at 21 years old, let alone decide to spend the rest of their lives with another human being. Both Connor and I have had to deal with the following statements, and variations of the following statements:

"You're too young to get married."
"You don't even have a job yet!"
"In two years, you'll change your mind."
"Shouldn't you wait a bit longer?"
"Are you sure you're really ready?"
"Are you pregnant?"
"You two might not be right for each other."
"Where are you going to live?"
"How are you going to make this work long distance?"
"What if he finds someone else in Los Angeles/what if she finds someone in Philadelphia?"

There's also the classic questions anyone is asked when they get engaged, which was kind of a bitter sweet combination of frustrating and fun to answer over and over:

"When's the wedding?!"
"Are you going to have two weddings? One for each coast?"
"How did he do it?"
"Is the ring real?"
"Who's the maid of honor/best man?"
"Did he ask your dad?"
"What did your dad say?"
"Was it romantic?"
"Who's paying for the wedding?"

Listen, folks, with big news there comes three types of people:

1. The people that love and support you through any decision--whether well thought out or totally bone headed.

2. Those who will stop at nothing until they have absolutely ruined it for you, and the entire parade is rained on, or perhaps aflame.

3. The individuals that are SO supportive because they want to live vicariously through your big news, and some how some way make that big news about him/herself. 

If you can, be the first kind of person. I wanted to write this article because I have been reading a TON of articles about getting engaged and wedding planning and things of that nature, and I feel like this one was the kind that was missing. I wanted to write an article for the couples that are facing stigma or obstacles like age, location, financial concerns, or lack of support.

Being engaged is an absolute blast--I say 12 days into being engaged--and I wanted to share my joy with people. However, there were people that really weren't happy with my news, or immediately felt obligated to give me a Power Point presentation on my bad decision. People make mistakes. It happens. Connor and I both feel that we have a future together, and that's the best future for the both of us. We have plenty of time to iron out details, but right now, we just want to enjoy the fact that we made this choice together.

No matter what kind of problems, obstacles, challenges or jerks you may face, just remember that ultimately this decision is about YOU and YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER. Some really important advice I have received that I would like to pass along:

"Put as much time into working on your relationship as you do on wedding planning. People spend so much time picking out center pieces and invitations, but forget that the wedding lasts for a day, while your marriage lasts a life time. Make sure that you both are as honest as possible with each other, and that you can council each other in times of need."

"MAKE TIME FOR EACH OTHER! Make time now, make time when the wedding planning gets intense, and make time for each other for forever. Make sure that date nights don't become a thing of the past. Make sure you feel sexy and fun with one another. Keep the flame a fire. Your love will change. You won't love each other any less, but eventually you will just love each other, not be in love--so it's important to show that you are important to each other."

"Wedding planning advice: pick out what is important to you, and ditch what isn't. I didn't want flowers at my wedding, but because everyone has flowers, I got them. I could have saved $6,000. Seriously. Have the wedding you want, not the wedding from a magazine."

"Tell each other a secret every day, something big or small, it doesn't really matter, but it's something that you can share together."

"Set rules for the future. Make sure that you both understand where one another is on certain subjects. My husband and I discussed that divorce was never going to be an option. That was twelve years ago. There are some days when we want to murder each other, but we know that we are together forever, and it's easier for us to look at the problem and say, "Is this worth it?" and if it's not, then we forgive each other. Work through your problems, don't let them define your relationship."

"Kiss. Kiss a lot."

I really enjoyed tidbits like these. Connor and I set time aside every single day to do a little FaceTime date. Lately, we have replaced our normal Let's Play watching with wedding planning stuff. He's an absolute champ at sitting through my presentation of my Pinterest boards.

What's your piece of wedding or engagement advice? Do you have any fun engagement tales? 

Check back for the next Blushing Belle Engagement installment: The Engagement Party!

Blushing Belle: The Proposal

This is not about the romantic comedy starring the forever extremely handsome Ryan Reynolds. This is about the big question between two very special people: "Will you marry me?" or any variation you find yourself attracted to. Here's a guide for cowboys and cowgirls as to how to pop that perfect question.

Do's and Don'ts:


Make it special. This is an important and romantic moment, but it's also a major life decision for the both of you.


Don't rush into things or drag your feet. As mentioned previously, this is a big decision for the both of you to make. Are you ready for this commitment? Is this something long overdue? What have you been waiting for? What else do you need? What else does he/she need? When the moment is right, you'll know. Now, no one can really tell you when it's a good time to get engaged no matter what the old grumps or fairy tales say. Some people consider the best time to get engaged is after being with a person for a few years, settled into a nice house with a white picket fence and a career that brings in at least $65,000 a year. However, others (myself included shamelessly) sometimes it's just about how two people feel about each other. I know how lame and cliche that may sound, but at the end of the day you click with one person. You come close to that click with some people, but there's really only one person that you really, fully click with. People are like puzzles. All of the little jigsaw pieces come together to form something greater. Those pieces are memories, experiences, and other people ranging from family, friends, lovers and foes, but there's only one person, that missing piece, that brings the whole picture together to complete you.  


Get some ideas. Go on Pinterest. Ask your engaged friends. Ask your prospective fiancé's friends or family. This will help generate your perfect plan. 


Don't ask empty handed. I know this sounds incredibly "douche-y" but according to several surveys, all of the wedding sites, and many pissed off, passive-aggressive brides asking without the ring can seem like you're unprepared or didn't put as much time and effort into the moment as you could have. If you couldn't afford a ring, this may be a factor you should consider when it comes to the engagement idea. Now, let's say you can't present her with a ring. Check your other options. Can you present her with something else like a necklace, promise ring, Boot Bling, etc? 


Go big or go home. This could mean many things. This could mean making the engagement an all out event, or going big on the nostalgia factor. Either way, make sure that this moment is one of the biggest for the both of you next to the actual wedding and perhaps your children. 


People are going to be super stoked for you and shower you with praise, congratulations, advice and perhaps even actual gifts--which is never a bad thing. However, there are going to be THOSE people that are going to be less than thrilled that you've popped the question or said yes to the question. These people can vary from relatives that don't think you're ready for marriage or your jilted best friend that never got around to telling you how he feels about you. No matter who that person is, don't let him/her ruin this for you. Be happy. (Unless someone tells you, like, "Hey, your fiancé is a serial killer. Like, legit, bodies in his basement." Then consider going about this with caution.)


Traditions. There are some traditions to this engagement game that still may be considered important to a lot of people. Think about these traditions and which you are willing to do. The most popular one is the groom asking the bride's father for "permission" before popping the question. Now, personally, I think this is a cute idea because it's shows that you want the girl bad enough that you'll do anything for her, even if that is tackling the obstacle of asking her scary father if it's okay to take her hand. It also kind of sets the guy up for failure though, because sometimes it's hard talking to a girl's dad. No matter what though, it's a respect thing. Ask the dad, at least 7 times out of 10 he won't kill you.


When it comes to celebrating the engagement, don't feel pressured by family or even your own eagerness to show off and celebrate to have the engagement party the weekend after you get engaged. Can you? ABSOLUTELY, YOU DO YOU, IT'S YOUR ENGAGEMENT! However, "studies" (and I say that to legitimize my internet blog post, but I really mean from the many stories I have read on The Knot, Pinterest, Facebook and several real life lady sources) show that waiting to have the engagement party any time between 1-3 months after getting engaged is best. This allows you time to do a lot: just simply enjoy being engaged, plan out some details (because people are going to ask you A LOT of questions you don't have the answers to at the party), who's going to make the guest list for the actual wedding (kind of bad form to invite someone to an engagement party, but not the actual wedding), what kind of engagement party you want to have, set up a registry, etc. 


Here are some things you may want to consider when it comes to how you want to go about getting engaged.

1. What kind of engagement do you want? (several ideas are listed below)

2. How much money do you want to spend on the engagement?

3. Who do you want to involve in the engagement? (Will it be a big family affair? Do you need an audience? Do you need the employees of your location to help you out? Do you need a confidant like the sister of the bride or best friend?)

4. What do you need in order to execute your plan? (location, supplies, reservations, flowers, etc.)

5. When do you want to get engaged? (What time of day? What time of year? What season? Day of the week? During a specific holiday?)

6. Where do you want to get engaged? (Is there a special destination or place that means something to the both of you? Are you willing to travel?)


1. Destination Engagements

Wanna go somewhere super special to pop the question? Consider these destinations.

1. Disneyland or Disney World

Disney actually has entire website dedicated to engagements and engagement planning. Buzzfeed has done articles about it. Disney is considered to be the happiest place on earth, so if you and your fiancé to be are into that kind of thing, make it a magical day at one of Disney's many parks. You can get the park involved or just do it yourself!

2. The beach

Go seaside and propose in the sand or right by the ocean. The setting is romantic and it's super simple.

3. Near a tourist trap

Places like the Hollywood sign, the Statue of Liberty, Eiffel Tower, Leaning Tower of Piza, the Empire State Building, or anywhere else you kind find a fanny packer taking a photo might be a fun spectacle for an engagement.

4. The great outdoors

Find yourself on a hike, camping, or perhaps just a romantic stroll through the woods. Let the trees, wind, and woodland creatures create the setting.

5. Theme Park 

Can't afford Disney or just not into giant mice? No worries. Check out Six Flags, Dorney Park, Sea World, zoos, etc. Go out for a day of fun and splendor!

2. Activities: 

Doing activities and going on a fun date sets a perfect mood to ask the question. Consider these date ideas and activities.

1. Horseback riding
2. Dinner and a movie (perhaps make it a home cooked meal of favorites and her favorite movie, a fancy restaurant and the newest blockbuster at the theater, etc.)
3. Stargazing
4. Build a blanket fort together
5. Go to the zoo
6. A picnic
7. A scavenger hunt
8. Make paper plane love notes and throw them at each other while you wait for a pizza to be delivered
9. Create a playlist of songs that are special to both of you and slow dance and jam out
10. Go out and get or stay at home and give each other the spa treatment (massages, candles, steamy shower, etc.)
11. Actually Netflix and chill (yeah, we know what the kids are really up to when it comes to the "Netflix and chill" date, but it's actually a great date idea. Set up a que with a theme: binge a few episodes of a new TV show you both wanted to watch, horror movies, enjoy a couple of episodes of each other's favorite TV shows, RomComs, "bad" movies, etc. Cuddle up with a blanket and an array of snacks and enjoy! You get to spend time close to each other, learn a lot about one anode there AND watch some entertaining stuff.)
12. Bowling
13. Go to an arcade and earn enough tickets to get each other prizes
14. Play games! (this is fun to incorporate alcohol and stripping too if you feel so inclined. Best games: poker, Boggle, Trouble, video games, etc.)
15. Shooting range to fire off some shots
16. Go camping (hike, build a campfire, stay in a cozy trailer)
17. Find some "Free Day" stuff to do (make a list of local events or locations that have freebies)
18. Tastings (whiskey, wine, cheese, cake, etc.)
19. Make a trip to a quirky destination (Pick a funky or interesting destination whether it's the next town over or a classic tourist trap, jump in the car and make a day trip out of it. Don't forget to bring a camera!)
20. Seasonal adventure (pumpkin picking/carving, berry picking, picking out/chopping down a Christmas tree, beach day, etc.)
21. Concert
22. Karaoke
23. Explore a city (check out tourist destinations, the best shops and place to eat, etc.)
24. Shop at a flea market
25. Do DIY projects together
Check out some more ideas here, here, here, and here

3. Nostalgia:

Make it an unforgettable night with the memories that brought you both to this point in the first place.
Go to the places of or recreate your first...
-Specific activity (For example, the first movie I ever saw with my boyfriend was Mad Max: Fury Road and that was before we started dating)
-Homecooked meal

4. Food:

Classic. Proposing with a girl's second biggest love: FOOD.

This is a cake.(gccouture)


5. During an Event

-Sporting Event

Check out more ideas here, here, here, here and here


Bushing Belle: Groom's Guide to the Southern Gentleman

Here are some quick tips, tricks, traditions and more to get you cowboys to your casanova best for your big day.


Bowties have been a southern groom tradition for a long time, and quite frankly it will never go out of style. Southern weddings traditionally are more colorful and full of flare, so your bowtie choice can speak more to your personality. Be sure to coordinate your bowtie with your grooms party and perhaps the wedding's color scheme as well. 

The Something Tradition
Old, New, Borrowed and Blue. This one isn't just for the ladies. Something old could be anything from a pair of cufflinks that have been passed down from generation to generation, or an incredibly dusty suit jacket you stumbled upon at the local Goodwill that just fits you perfectly. Something new is yes anything that you recently purchase for your big day, but it should still be able to tie in with the rest of your ensemble. Borrowed definitely should have some family or friend significance. Something blue may be a bit more difficult considering that it may contradict with your color scheme, but check out this article 6 Ways Grooms Can Add Something Blue for some tips!

Add some Flare

Colorful and flashy socks, bowties, ties, or kerchiefs are perfect ways to add subtle flare to any ensemble.

Khaki, light blue, pink, these are all shirt colors that offer a bit of pizzazz as opposed to the classic white undershirt. If you do go white, make sure it is a BRIGHT WHITE, or else the shirt may seem dingy in photos.

Shoes, keep it classy and comfortable but you can go with cowboy boots or tasseled loafers to add some style to your outfit.

Groom's Cake

The Groom's Cake is a southern tradition that has recently become quite popular for the modern wedding. A Groom's Cake is a cake baked (or commissioned/designed) by the bride for the groom based off of his interests, likes and hobbies.


If you can brand it, stitch on it, or write on it--monogram it. Monograms are an important tradition because it unifies the event as your own. Monogram your breast pocket kerchief, the back of your tie, even your socks! Make sure to sign your special day.